Monday, November 20, 2006

Wedding Proposal-Marhusip


Marhusip
Originally uploaded by parlinartha.
Last Saturday, 18th November 2006 was a special day for us, because on that day we were enggaged. In Bataknese we called it Marhusip. Our parents meet up in Surabaya formally to discuss the wedding arrangement according to the Bataknese wedding ceremony. The bataknese ceremony is very, very, and i mean very complicated. I cannot understand all the process. However it looks fun. We will have another ceremony called Martuppol next January in Surabaya. Martuppol is normally two weeks before our wedding day, it is where the wedding announced in church and where the families meet and discuss job division during the wedding day. And there are more ceremony that both families are going to do to complete the Wedding in Bataknese way.

My parents and sister came on Friday by train. Me, my father and mother in law pick them up in the train station. My parents stay in this small place very near to where my parents in law stay. We had dinner and went to the "pangaribuan" family. This family will be my host family in surabaya, representing my surename (marga). The next morning on saturday, Artha came from Jakarta with Deris.

The ceremony start where my family went to where all the "pangaribuan" gather. And then they discuss what are they going to say during the Marhusip. We appoint one guy as the spokeperson (Raja Hatta), normally those who knows alot about the Batak culture and tradition. After that we went to "Purba" house (Artha's family). My family will bring pork as a gift to them, and they will provide fish (If i'm not mistaken). And then they talked about the wedding, the dates, venue and all the details. The way they discuss is very interesting, it is more like reading poem with beutiful words, and the word are chosen very carefully. That is why the spokeperson have to be experienced in this.

All went well and hoping the rest of the ceremony will go as per plan also.

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